@mercurythedragon thank you, makes sense. I can't relate to the mindset that would lead to that conclusion though.
Even if someone were purely selfish, a world that realizes what you went through was bad and tries to not repeat it is also going to be more sympathetic to you when you talk about what you went through and more likely to support what you might need to repair some of the damage
I think that view tends to come from a very individualistic "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" worldview. It's a very bitter way of thinking, but i can kind of see it. It's also the sort of worldview that i think comes from not having a very deep understanding of how other people differ from oneself.
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