The Stalex @infernusgoatus@radical.town

Two moods:

Somebody: offers me aid

Me: no thanks I'll make it work

Me making it work

one last thing before I log off for a bit to breathe

people don't lose the right to common courtesy just because you don't like them
block evasion is still shitty as hell no matter what the context, end of story
threatening people is not ok, end of story

what you do isn't suddenly justifiable because someone is "the enemy" or "the other" it isn't, it really really isn't, that's an incredibly dangerous way of thinking

stay in your lane

I know none of you want to hear this, but we, as a community, dogpile people on a terrifyingly regular basis

if you don't think we do, please just think critically about the way in which we engage with a lot of people

we dogpile and we virtue signal and we dramamonger and we get involved when we don't need to and, frankly, shouldn't

and you know what? some people are well-intending when they do this and that's the hardest thing of all

instead of boosting a primary post I see so much "oh this is my paraphrasing of someone's post that praraphrased this post that..." and then that post gets shared by someone who has a lot of influence and everyone accepts it as gospel

clarity and understanding aren't luxuries we should revoke from people because we don't like them or agree with them

mastodon is a community and subtooting is poisoning the well something fucking fierce

because when we play telephone with the facts they get distorted, they get hard to follow, it's hard to try and look back and actually understand what was going on

instead of engaging with a discussion because you want to help resolve the conflict at hand, or because you want to try and inform yourself, or because you want to change things for the better, folks engage with it because "well everyone else is doing it so I may as well" and it fucking sucks

you're turning REAL PEOPLE'S LIVES AND MENTAL HEALTH AND STRUGGLES INTO A SPECTATOR SPORT

YOU HAVE NO STAKE IN THIS

SO STAY THE FUCK AWAY

mastodon loves to engage with discourse as a spectacle

what starts off as a discussion or a disagreement or an argument QUICKLY spins out into an event

everyone on the sidelines starts to hoot and holler and recklessly share their account of what happened and engage in games of xe-said-ey-said without consulting the original people or even letting them know that that's being done

and why?

because it's FUN to some of y'all