Oh yeah, there's an issue tracker/proposal tracker for radical.town specific stuff. Though, you know, don't use it to request emojis, I can do that on my own.
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"Bluh both sides are bad antifa are the real fascists"
I don't mean 'gender is fake' in some trite 'everyone is nonbinary, REALLY' way, just that the volumes we've defined in this multi-dimensional space that describe all of our bodies and our interactions between each other are necessarily going to be fuzzy because people are complex and there are many, many dimensions here.
It's still valid and useful to use words that describe complex concepts because that's what words are for and it really pisses me off how incredibly nuanced terms like 'gender' or 'identity', the latter of which encompasses *our entire notion of self* get reduced to "feels". It's just so... intellectually hollow and makes me frustrated and sad.
We're social creatures and more than that, we're social creatures who have lossy memory storage and we often rely on others to give us enough information that we can piece the narratives of our lives back together. This isn't a 'feels over reals' thing, this is just a fact that our brains cannot store all the data we take in. We HAVE to tell stories, that's how our compression algorithm works!
All of this comes together to define our reality. I don't see this as any less real than anyone else, because we're all playing by the same rules here (for the most part... I'm aware that some conditions can complicate things).
What I'm getting at is... I can hold the idea that gender is both fake in the sense that it's just... a set of things we all agreed are 'man' or 'woman' but also that it is real and has a real impact on our lives and our well-being.
Trans people struggle with validity because we exist in those dark zones where society tells us we cannot exist. We're not the only ones, either. Intersex people, butches, just, lots and lots of examples throughout history. They might not map neatly onto our current space, but that doesn't make them less valid.
Validity is when we agree that our experiences, our existence, and our movement through that space is something that is real and happens. Someone once argued with me that only I can validate myself and nobody can invalidate my identity unless I allow them to. But that's wrong. Someone can absolutely convince you that you're the crazy one and that you are not who you think or say you are.
"But sex physically exists!" Well, two things, yes, different traits exist for different people and yes, there are broad correlations between certain sets of traits (though those are not as strong as people tend to think). But the meanings that we assign to those are not physical.
You often hear of TERFs talking about "penises" as if a penis can act on its own. By that same token, cultural constructs are absolutely real. If we draw a line in the sand and all agree that we won't cross it, that line is just as real with regard to our crossing it as a wall.
We as a society agree that there are only certain paths and locations that can exist within that sexed space, but there are more, and those are just as valid and real as any others. We just, as a society, believe there is a line in the sand.
What sucks is that I'm the sort of visual person that can say things like, "Gender is the way we exist in and move through a sexed culture" and like, I have a visual idea of what that means in my mind but how do I even convey something like that.
Gender isn't fake and sex is real, that's just not how any of this works. Gender emerges out of the way that groups of people sought to control reproduction, but that doesn't mean it starts and ends with reproduction, nor does it mean that it exists in the same manner for all people at all times.
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A cool and chill place for cool and chill people.