Gaslighting 

I've just seen this, a tweet where Ghosting is referred to as a form of gaslighting, and it's getting to me.

Gaslighting is a form of abuse that, used enough, can have real and severe lasting consequences.

Ghosting is the immediate and total severing a relationship, which you might not like and may find difficult to deal with, but you also have no automatic right to people's time or attention.

Misrepresentation of gaslighting is happening a LOT lately.

Gaslighting 

Things you don't like, find insulting or disrespectful, things which are hurtful or when someone has a perception of a situation that is different to your own... These are things I've seen described as such and that's not it. This is not gaslighting.

Gaslighting is to deliberately, maliciously misrepresent reality.

Having lasting psychological problems from not having a fixed grasp on reality growing up, because of gaslighting, it's hard not to be annoyed by it.

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Gaslighting, abuse (personal) 

I was lied to about things that happened to me throughout my childhood.
I was told lies were true, things that happened never did, things that didn't happen did, that clear and absolute truths were lies. It could be immediately after, days, weeks, months or years. Sometimes mistruths even conflicted.

I have no idea how many of my memories are real, how many are completely made up, what things were said to or about me, what my familial relationships were like.

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Gaslighting, abuse (personal) 

It's an extreme example but that's what gaslighting is and does. It's deliberately fucking with a person's perception of reality.

Not seeing eye to eye with someone, an abrupt relationship breakdown, or feeling slighted, those are far, far from the same thing.

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Gaslighting, abuse (personal) 

@sophia expressin' solidarity — yeah — it is Extremely weird and uncomfortable to have 'gaslighting' become the new 'toxic' when like, this is an extremely specific thing where I've been like. forced to agree that I thought and felt things that I didn't; was told I was lying or exaggerating; about things that happened; consistently encouraged to doubt my every single instinct and perception, especially that I had been mistreated; later in life and by other people told I was hallucinating real sensations... like, this language of trauma, abuse, and (related) madness ending up in the hands of sane people with normal lives... like what are they even using it for? dramatizing and moralizing about their pet peeves?? 'ghosting is gaslighting' what the everloving fuck

Gaslighting, abuse (personal) 

@byttyrs Solidarity back at you, I'm sorry you've been through that too. The way you describe it feels very familiar.
I had the conversion syndrome nonsense too, turned out to be a compressed spinal cord. 🙄

I wish there were better representation of what it actually means, being used correctly to describe actual abuse, because in the last year or two I've seen things like this far more than the truth of it

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