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hot take, 'identity' as the principle way of thinking about trans & non-binary people is a liberal trap, a desperate recapitulation of the trans & nonbinary threat to the 'innate' categoric mandate of gender.

ANY intellectually-honest account of gender must acknowledge that it is constantly being forced to grab gender by a different hand-hold, that gender shakes off its analyst like a bull shakes off its rider. if you start by talking about reproductive capacity, gestation & insemination, you are forced by infertility and intersexing and castration and celibacy and non-reproductive sexuality to begin talking instead about clothes, or division of labor, or burial rites. every 'defining' aspect of gender explodes upon too-careful observation.

I refuse to demonstrate that my womanhood is 'no threat' to the integrity of womanhood as a category by appealing to a secret truth. I am a woman Because the category of womanhood lacks integrity. you cannot threaten what never lived & cannot die.

a gender identity is a great, reasonably-short way to explain what "your whole deal" is to friends and family, if you can get it

it is a very heavy weight to shackle to the ankle of a gender theory if you have to *start* from the Cliff's notes

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if you wish to get anywhere with a gender theory, you gotta get comfortable with the thing you're studying you throwing you just, a whole lot. you have these messy, fuzzy categories with histories attached: man, woman, eunuch, butch, [homophobic slur starting with an F]...

at different times, in different places, some of those categories are more visible and talked-about; others are submerged, discussed only in codes and ciphers, never acknowledged as being on the same level (at least potentially) as the Big Categories. and in some times and places, you have wholly different sets of categories in play; part of the legacy of colonial violence is that many indigenous systems of gender more complex than the colonial gender binary were suppressed, marginalized, or wiped out.

so flex with it. use a framework when it works; when it stops working, acknowledge that you're moving to a different model. try to think about When a model fails; see if you can be principled in your inconsistency.

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it is useful to point out that one crucial way that gender transition "works" is that it makes people treat trans women like shit, in the way that they treat women-in-general badly! correspondingly, studies of trans men transitioning at work show that people take these men more seriously with their true face on, sometimes directly and cluelessly comparing their work favorably to their pre-transition facade's, even as they treat them badly as part of transphobia.

(transition also "works" in that some of us can pass for cis— but holding *both* passing & oppression as lenses for gender in mind lets us note that passing is a form of safety, not proof-of-right)

but it's *not* simply-true that to be a man is to be safe from gendered violence. 'male socialization' for effeminate children can mean vulnerability to childhood sexual abuse and homophobic violence from peers, authorities, & family. & white supremacy gives white women violent, gendered power over Black men as well as Black women.

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one place where people tend to double-down on identity-as-first-principle is around nonbinary people. I think some of this, also, has to do with the reductive approach to gender that comes out of white, heterosexual feminism: men are always empowered, women always oppressed by them, and we don't know how to break from that analysis even when we stray out of the heterosexual bourgeois white household where these theories were developed. we fall back on analysis-from-identity because we're at a loss, trying to find any other place for nonbinary people in an analysis of gendered power.

so let me stop here: there's nothing more 'real' about men & women than about nonbinary people, and the concept of identity is as drastically-simplifying of nonbinary experience as it is of men & women's.

identity is one lens we should hold in mind when we think about nonbinary people. it is noteworthy that people identify out of male & female; it only makes sense, in the light of other ways we fall out.

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I mentioned effeminacy, above, and I think it's an important thing to keep in mind when we look for nonbinary people in gendered society's brutal logic.

Take the lens of socialist feminism. Socialist feminism finds gender in production and re-production of society, in the division of labor. Our modern concepts of gender stem from a long history on the one hand; on the other hand from the very-modern needs of the capitalist model. You need a worker who shows up every day for long, grueling work. When he leaves, he needs to have clothes, food, a sanitary home; this work, the re-productive labor of the 'private sphere', was designated for women.

But before even the invention of agriculture, division of labor has been a crucial part of gender for a *long* time.

Fashion design. Fashion retail. Cosmetics retail. Floristry. Wedding planning. Nursing. Interior design. What gender is associated with this cluster of jobs, this division of labor? Not masculine, not feminine: effeminate.

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Here, under a label like 'nelly' or 'fairy' or [much-worse homophobic word starting with F], we find a gender category which goes largely unacknowledged or only joked-about out in the open of gendered society, yet which gendered society pushes into specific forms of labor— that is, which gendered society makes *use* of even as it abuses them and reasons them out of existence.

This is unsurprising, by the way, from a cross-cultural perspective. One of the most common 'third-gender' categories is a gender of effeminate wedding planners. Colonialism chose as one of its burning brands the concept of a "scientific, civilized" gender binary with which to wipe out "barbaric, confused" extrabinary indigenous systems of gender; but if that meant not having [F-slurs] around at home to do the historically-appropriate forms of dirty work of ~Western civilization~... well, we don't have to go *that* far. So this non-binary gender goes unacknowledged, but still exploited and abjected.

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This is something which identity-as-first-principle bars us, full-stop, from understanding.

Some effeminate people, marked for their gender variance from childhood and pushed into specialized forms of labor, living with the particular oppressions and wounds of that gendered embodiment, identify as men. Others will identify as non-binary or some more specific term; some of us, like me, are even women in addition to being [F-slurs].

Some, like me, will label ourselves with words like 'nelly' or the F-slur; for others, those words are extremely uncomfortable! This is not a category which is defined around a shared, overt label for an identity; instead, it is a category that, as analysts of gender, we single out because there are oppressions which affect us, specifically, and because we are treated together as a group by gendered society.

A non-binary category like [F-slur] cuts across identities, not to disrespect them but to analyze something which identities are not well-suited for.

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The problem here is not that we have these ways of "identifying ourselves" to other people, not that we explain ourselves with labels or use labels to make sense of our big messy nonverbal feelings. The problem is promoting this one model of identity as the Ur-stuff of gender, making it a big glowing boss-battle weak-spot in our theories and activism, limiting our theories and activism to only what can be discussed in terms of identity.

And when we move out of the identity model to explain something it doesn't handle well, we find things we can use to better explain conversations we have in terms of identity.

For instance: isn't an [F-slur] just a man who loves men? Okay, maybe an *unusual* kind of man, who's very feminine or flamboyant, who has these markedly-unmasculine sexual and social roles, and who is oppressed for his gendered difference...

and then, far enough down this road, you're sorta wondering what the point is of trying to explain effeminacy in terms of men, anyway?

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It's not that I'm saying you need to tell a man who loves men and is effeminate that he isn't a man. That's extremely rude and does nothing of value. What I mean to point out, instead, is that connecting effeminacy to masculinity doesn't necessarily help us understand either of those things; it might even hurt us. A man can very well be effeminate, but what 'effeminacy' connotes isn't 'manhood', but this specific separate thing with its own complicated relationships within the system of men, women, and otherwise.

So what can we bring back to the identity conversation? Well:

What, indeed, is the point of explaining things which fall outside of "male" and "female" as those things are typically understood, using "male" and "female" with qualifiers? What useful thing have you done if you explain a non-binary person as some weird, unusual sort of man or woman? Have you changed anything about them? Or have you just papered over their difference, and your discomfort, with words?

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In fact, a lot of this "explaining"-with-male-and-female is this way: it doesn't explain anything at all! it's just a weird choice you made to cludgily fit some of the data into your limited, shitty model.

Labeling babies with ambiguous genitalia as either male or female at birth? Explains nothing! Saying that XXY (Klinefelter) individuals are "male, but have these differences from typical males"? Explains nothing! Surgically "correcting" babies with confusing enough junk? Explains nothing, and is terrible to do! Saying that someone "is a masculine woman and identifies as nonbinary"? Explains nothing, and is terrible to do!

When someone commits themselves to the idea that "biologically, there are only male and female," they doom themselves to an overwhelming effort to achieve nothing at all. Things will continue to be more messy and complicated than that,

and their choice to finally fall on "you are 'really' a man" or "you are 'really' a woman" doesn't even explain how they see you.

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I will say that trans and nb people and our movements have at times done useful things with identity-as-first-principle; if we hadn't, it wouldn't be the subject of so much reactionary ire. it is an extremely-clear statement that 1) it matters if someone tells you that she is a woman* and 2) the number of ways there are to be trans is not two, but illimitible.

* It also matters if you say you are something else, including 'a man,' but even in a strong identity framework, transphobes will still disregard your self-conception no matter what. What I mean is, as I remember it, the shining achievement of identity-as-first-principle is that, in progressive spaces from about 2011-2013, it briefly became taboo to directly suggest that a trans woman had male privilege (or the like) or to overtly shun a newly-out or gender-nonconforming trans woman. A limited, qualified kind of victory.

Honestly, though? I think identity-as-first-principle's application in gay+ politics has roundly sucked.

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I can't even be super articulate about how much sexual orientation labels suck as the-main-thing-to-talk-about in re: gay+ politics. They suck.

Arguments about what 'bi' and 'pan' mean suck and don't matter. It is totally a matter of comfort and preference which one(s) of those words you use to explain yourself to others, or using another word entirely. It does not determine, and is not determined by, the kinds of oppression you face.

Arguments about who is and isn't 'queer' or 'LGBT' suck, and I wanna be REALLY CLEAR: the *fact* of having those arguments sucks, not the specific opinion you dislike that somebody else said in one of those arguments. It straight up doesn't matter where somebody thinks the boundary line is around 'queer' or 'LGBT'. I think it's completely possible and near-totally unacknowledged that gay+ people might have different answers to that question in London, England vs., say, Houston, Texas... so why are we so het up about the definition of this label, again?

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@byttyrs I think I've told you before but a lot of what you write about gender/sexuality/identity has been absolutely integral to my developing the ways I have to think of myself

@bryn @byttyrs mads has expanded my brain and made me think many deep thinks

@Aleums @bryn 💛😭💛😭💛😭💛 I am so happy and so proud omg...

@byttyrs "gender" is just a word that means category anyway. And categories of living things will always be fuzzy. Chopping up humans and forcing them into boxes is fascism.

circa 1300, "kind, sort, class, a class or kind of persons or things sharing certain traits," from Old French gendre, genre "kind, species; character; gender" (12c., Modern French genre), from stem of Latin genus (genitive generis) "race, stock, family; kind, rank, order; species,"

@byttyrs thinking of your identity as a genre is much more healthy I think. Are you more pop-punk, or more electro-funk? Hmmmm :thaenkin:

@byttyrs ok im with you on most of this but i don't understand how "defining gender in terms of how it relates to maleness/femaleness" being bad is an indictment of identity categories? bc like you said ppl still have useful labels that they use to identify themselves

@velexiraptor it's not an indictment of identity categories or identity-orientef theories, but of society making everything some kinda male or some kinda female. explaining your own stuff in relation to male and female is fine; overriding someone else's explanation, or a more neutral scientific model, to male it more binary-gendering sucks

@velexiraptor like it's strictly unnecessary to group all sex-chromosomal variants into 'male' and 'female,' y'know? and it's not helpful to try to rigidly class effeminacy as a variant of maleness, when so many societies have been quite clear about seeing it as other-than-male, other-than-female.

@byttyrs @velexiraptor even haploid and diploid types don't have the final word on what their effects are for sexual function or gender, of course.

@byttyrs mads i love you so much thank you for this writeup, it's totally laying out a whole bunch of junk I'm grappling with rn!!

@selontheweb 💛😍😭😍😭💛 sel I wuv you so much too, I'm so glad these frenzied jottings are of value to you!!!

@byttyrs
this is a really interesting & thought provoking thread! i hadn't thought about stuff like that before, even though i've come across concepts like fa'afafine before (samoan like, effeminate third gender)
also tbh the only real way to define who's queer or lgbt or whatever is to ask if they want to be

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@certifiedperson I'm not sure why I never responded to this!

first of all, transmasc or AFAB or transmisogyny-exempt — however you wanna name that category — trans people can 100% be effeminate. I know multiple people in that embodiment/grouping, some of whom have been treated by other people as effeminate since they were pre-pubertal children — when they 'should,' presumably, have been treated like "little g*rls," adults instead as much treated them as... nellies. and from a first pass, some trans men are both gay and effeminate, and that makes sense; nonbinary people of any assignment can land there as well.

but I can't decide for you whether or how effeminacy relates to your gender experience. you are both free to it, conceptually, and also free to decide it doesn't fit. "masculinity, femininity, and effeminacy" is not a closed field — other extra-binary strains of gender exist. similar arguments could be made about 'spinster' or 'androgyne' or 'sworn virgin' ideas.

@byttyrs @certifiedperson oh I like that you brought up those other categories as well. It really is interesting how adults and other people tend to place people in categories like that, kind of on instinct, and it's like they were recognizing "oh this person is trans or ace, or this other thing I've seen before" without even really knowing it themselves

Like I see people do that all the time with autistic people

They subconsciously group us together even if they don't know *why*

@byttyrs @certifiedperson But yeah also I just realized that people in my family kinda place me in the "spinster" category already even though I'm like only 21 lol

But it's like yeah, actually I'm aroace lol but they don't know that or like necessarily recognize that that's what they've identified

But they'll compare me to other people in our family who are older and haven't had those types of relationships (usually in a negative way saying I shouldn't be like them 🙄)

@byttyrs @certifiedperson But it also makes me wonder about those family members, like maybe they're queer like me or in a different way, but other people have recognized our similarities and grouped us together even if it's in a negative way

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@byttyrs
I'm glad you brought up the other categories, because my brain kinda went "these three categories you've brought up are the only ones in this paradigm" so things like androgyne as a social category didn't occur to us at all!

(And thanks for replying! We just figure you'd muted the thread so it got missed or smth)

@RadiantEmber @byttyrs
I would be interested, on the off chance you have any sources (formal or casual) that talk more about categories such as effeminacy and androgyny? Would be super keen on reading a bit more stuff around that.

@byttyrs I'll interject here because this is actually in my gender bailywick.

There's a particular kind of Man that's a Treasure for Women: They do all the Man things, but everything else is tailored down for feminine comfort.

It's a weird third gender place because the Alt-right likes to call them Betas or Cucks.

I see things differently because I'm intersex. A Samurai is still a Samurai when he's wearing the Kimono and arranging flowers.

@byttyrs very interested in this critique from a Jewish perspective, where identity is also failing us. Having a Jewish identity has become the dominant mode of Jewishness in the United States, and as such, has rendered Judaism and Jewishness nearly contentless. (My autocorrect makes the salient change to “contextless” which is a related problem)

@byttyrs Brazilian travestis have historically, judging from cis reports at least, seen themselves as their own gender, "neither man nor woman but a travesti". you could describe them as non-binary third-gender femmes, in gringo terminology. but many travestis take the category "woman" too. in the song "Mulher" – woman – by travesti singer Linn da Quebrada, she goes from "neither man nor woman, t-slur femme" to "woman, woman, woman" in the course of a minute, not in contradiction but coexisting

@byttyrs (Linn also proudly claim the local equivalent of the f-slur in other songs.)

I've seen travestis who use the word as essentially a homegrown, street culture, Black-led equivalent of the imported "trans woman", interchangeably with it. Other travestis use it as "sex-positive non-op trans woman", and so forth. travesti and scholar Ana Flor has argued that the whole point of being travesti is precisely to not be bound by a simple definition of gender.

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People try to classify non-binary people into afab/amab transmasc/transfemme because they're disturbed by something that has no clear position in relation to power.

When are you privileged? When do you experience oppression? If the answer is fluid, contextual and paradoxical, then people respond to that with hostility.

This may be enforced as ruthlessly by those who resist the norms as by those who made them. It's the fear+rage against combatants without a uniform, rank and number.

@queeranarchism I don't like this take. I think there are transphobic reasons to try to relate nonbinary people to their assigned sex at birth, and that that's even why some trans people do it. however, some trans people— nonbinary or otherwise— are empowered by transmisogyny, and others are oppressed by transmisogyny, and the first group does pretty routinely wield that power against the second. so there are other times people bring up assigned sex at birth, however clumsily, exactly because there is a clear disproportionate access to power between nonbinary people that has to be problematized.

@byttyrs

"some trans people— nonbinary or otherwise— are empowered by transmisogyny, and others are oppressed by transmisogyny"

YES. absolutely. 100% true.
However, non-binary experiences of that oppression are often complex and paradoxical and changing over time.

It is that complexity, that 'not knowing whether someone experiences oppression or empowerment' that is met with hostility. Because it defies a stable and constant oppressed/empowered binary that's easier to deal with.

@byttyrs thank you Mads, from the bottom of my heart, thank you

tangent about gender and disability 

tangent about gender and disability 

@byttyrs "(transition also "works" in that some of us can pass for cis— but holding *both* passing & oppression as lenses for gender in mind lets us note that passing is a form of safety, not proof-of-right)"

Ughhh this is *such a good line.*

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