Nothing makes me cry as quickly as trans kids getting unconditional love and support from their parents.
I just read one now that had a paragraph towards the end that read:
“But then I stopped crying. Because as much as I feel I’ve struggled, it will be so much harder for her. And while we already have a few people in our lives who are vocally unsupportive - we have an INCREDIBLE, AMAZING group of people that have never made her feel more loved.”
A parent that gets it. A parent that knows it isn’t about them.
I am happy to live in an era where a child can figure it out at 5 and be supported and loved immediately instead of scared and alone for decades.
@AudreyJune yes! i think i breathed a sigh of relief when i saw that, because so many people don't seem to get past the "i'm crying at what it feels like i've lost" part.
i do think that this story is a reminder that telling even very young children about trans, non-binary, and intersex people is a really good idea! learning about it at 5 is still so much better than how it's been in the past, but what if children *always* knew that they had options beside their assigned gender?
@caprimoon one thing that i love about the story is that it really puts to death the lie that having wide gender norms can replace transition. This child had free reign to be any kind of boy she wanted to be and still realized at 5 years old that ultimately there is no flavor of boy that works when you are in fact a girl.
back when our child was younger and i was in gender-neutral parenting groups, i got a sense that some people were trying to "save" their kids from being trans (or from figuring it out in adulthood, which was... bad? tragic? a sign of parental failure??), and if they got to x age without saying they wanted to be a gender not assigned at birth, then the gender freedom worked and they were safely cis but with a wider selection of clothes/toys/etc.
it was frustrating because half the point of skipping the compulsory gender binary is for your child to know that you'll accept them at every step as they figure this stuff out over the course of their whole lifetime! even in the most genderful environment, not every child is going to figure it out when they're very young!!!
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